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Sex and Religion | HOLY FACTS – Deepak Chopra

January 15, 2020

Hey everyone! I’m Gotham Chopra and this is
Holy Facts, the show where we take you on a tour of the weirder side of religion and
spirituality, from the Jedi mind tricks to summoning the spirits of the dead. For this
episode, you’re going to want to turn the lights down low, pour yourself a glass of
red wine, and put on some Barry White, cause tonight we’re talking about sex. Okay this
is getting weird! Sex and religion have always had a relationship
that can best be described as “it’s complicated.” While Hindus literally wrote the book on sex
in the form of the kama sutra, sex for devout followers of other religions often has a lot
of rules and restrictions. For Orthodox Jews, sex with a woman while she’s on her period
is a no-no, while one Islamic “hadith,” or saying by the Prophet Muhammed, indicates
that a man can’t leave the bed until the woman is satisfied. But one constant across nearly all religions
is the value placed on virginity and virgins. Ancient Pagans sacrificed virgins to the gods
in religious rituals, while modern Christians throw purity balls to celebrate the virginity
of their young people. At one such ball, young girls pass under an arch made of swords held
by older men, which seems awfully phallic for a ceremony that’s all about purity.
And although it’s nice to have a party for your daughter to tell her how special and
worthy she is, isn’t it kind of creepy to shine such a bright light on something so
personal to a young person. But then again, purity has always been powerful
currency. In ancient Rome, Vestal Virgins were priestesses charged with performing religious
rituals and keeping the eternal flame tribute to Vesta, goddess of the hearth, burning.
Though the practice died out some 1600 years ago, the house of the Virgins was recently
reopened to the public and features women dressed in traditional Vestal garb, sort of
like the Roman version of Epcot Center, except with fewer rides and more chastity. For the
ancient Vestals, the virginity part of their name wasn’t just a suggestion. A vestal
virgin caught breaking her vow of chastity would be condemned to death and buried alive.
But, no pressure! On the up side, the vestal virgins got to live relatively independent
lives, compared to their contemporaries, who had few freedoms and little power. Although many religions place a high value
on virginity, at least one – Islam – also provides a convenient loophole, in the form
of temporary marriage, called “sigheh.” Though Sunni Muslims banned sigheh, Shiites
did not, and the practice is still alive and well in Iran. Couples can specify a term for
as little as a few minutes or as long as 99 years for their marriage and can renew the
contract as often as they want. When you think about it, temporary marriage is not a bad
idea, especially considering the high divorce rate around the world. And it would have helped
Kim Kardashian avoid a lot of heartbreak and expense. While proponents say the practice of sigheh
allows couples who can’t or don’t want to marry to be “together,” critics say
it also provides a framework for legalized prostitution. And what about atheists? Well, according to
a Kansas University Study, atheists have the best sex lives, due to the fact that they’re
not plagued by guilt afterwards, as many religious people are. Mormons ranks highest on the guilt
scale, followed closely by Jehovah’s Witnesses and Pentecostals. How do you reconcile your faith with your
sex life? Let us know in the comments below or by uploading a response video. Go crazy
with that.

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  • Reply superflysquirrel February 4, 2013 at 8:54 pm

    I love watching these. Thank you for the video 🙂

  • Reply The Chopra Well February 4, 2013 at 9:57 pm

    Thanks for watching and commenting! So glad you're enjoying the series 🙂

  • Reply Alex Ramos February 5, 2013 at 4:57 am

    Some would call me an atheist, though I don't spew out such rigid terms about viewpoints as nonchalantly as others. Staying away from massive indulgence in sex has lead me to a healthy, disease-free, lifestyle.

  • Reply Amber Dixon February 5, 2013 at 10:20 am

    I have found Love to be the Universal Religion and language. When all is said and done all things done from the Love flowing from your heart are pure. Enjoy the journey. Thanks for posting the series. Social standards and conditions/traditions usually are not based in heart centered Love.

  • Reply MrsAustraliana February 5, 2013 at 11:05 am

    very interesting… I like how this series is showing everyone the different perspectives of a topic we all know something about…thanks!!

    I am very much looking forward to the parenting show =)

  • Reply Gearoid Ó h-Oistín February 5, 2013 at 1:05 pm

    "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt within the heart." – Helen Keller

  • Reply Wesam Yaghmour February 5, 2013 at 3:46 pm

    I am a muslim.. And love to know the hadith u were refering to that says dont leave the bed if the women is not satisfied. What is your reference?

  • Reply The Chopra Well February 5, 2013 at 6:04 pm

    Thank you! Parenting show comes out on Thursday – we're excited, too!

  • Reply Nikolai Massine February 5, 2013 at 11:57 pm

    i smoke a joint and i make love to my fellowship women.

  • Reply anyways3 February 6, 2013 at 4:41 am

    Please make sure to give out CORRECT information. No where in Islam is "temporary marriage" allowed, that may be a part of peoples culture. A lot of people see these videos, its not good to tell them something false.

  • Reply Farhan Qureshi February 8, 2013 at 3:56 am

    I grew up Muslim and abstinence was drilled in my head; now I look at it as a spiritual experience and tantra appeals greatly to me. Sex can simply be pleasure too, but it way more than that since it is the seat of procreation and orgasm is mystical experience and a unique sacred experience of Divinity

  • Reply The Chopra Well February 8, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    That's a great attitude! Intention behind action is definitely very important.

  • Reply kerby franck February 10, 2013 at 7:32 am

    @star5doll well said couldn't agree more I felt the same growing up as a Christian. But now that I'm awakened sex seems natural and shouldn't be suppressed. 🙂

  • Reply Jenananda Monk February 20, 2013 at 4:23 am

    Never a reason for guilt if you are non-harming.

  • Reply Amber Dixon March 6, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Thank's I had forgotten that Helen Keller gave us this beautiful quote. Blessings and Love in your experience in this world.

  • Reply Gearoid Ó h-Oistín June 3, 2013 at 10:43 pm

    Amber, thank you very much for your kind words, which I really appreciate. Yes, I think Helen Keller's quote is beautiful enough, without a doubt. However, I indirectly heard that Helen Keller often got misinterpreted and misquoted from the outside world. In fact, she was a strong advocate for the rights and work of women. However, others imagined painting her as a brave soul and heroic angel. Few people understood her secret life but she was actively introverted before her social skills.

  • Reply Yiannis Mihail December 18, 2013 at 8:18 am

    Abstinence from sex being the equivalent to your brain of whacking it with a sledge hammer, no doubt these religious animals are so frustrated and hateful. Their problem though. 

  • Reply Grayson - Rock Your Life January 19, 2014 at 6:05 am

    Society and religion has no problem with showing and glorifying war, killings. We see them in so much movies, even in the looney toons, where they try to kill each other. But when it comes to somethin natural, the best body experience while becoming material one with the other. Thats a bad bad thing. Somethin that has to be hided. Its evil, its from the devil they say. Ah ok and Yeshua preached war, splatter, cutting of your neighbours with a chainsaw?!

  • Reply RED February 8, 2014 at 12:39 am

    When you sexualy repress people you fuck them up. it goes against nature. Take a look at any catholic. Exspecially the priests.

  • Reply RED February 8, 2014 at 12:39 am

    When you sexualy repress people you fuck them up. it goes against nature. Take a look at any catholic. Exspecially the priests.

  • Reply Angelo Flores May 22, 2014 at 11:47 am

    I wonder what the Bible says about Cock-suckers ? 

  • Reply DennisCosmus May 28, 2015 at 5:32 am

    i am from europe ive never seen someone celebrating the virginity of his daugthers.
    On such ways worng false judgements raise.

  • Reply David Bird November 2, 2018 at 7:06 am

    I love this video. I am someone who has tried waiting till marriage till having sex again after being baptized last year, but for me someone with a high sex drive at a young age, ain't happening. As long as people are of legal age and have each others consent then enjoy your sex life while you can. I'm single and enjoy making love to escorts until I get into my next relationship then she'll be the only I'll make love to and be there for her for who she is because I am a loyal honest loving man who is ready to love a woman and be there for her as much as possible.

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